I’m burning a Pumpkin Spice candle right now in honor of fall coming. So it’s been a full year since I’ve moved out to California and I’ve had some good experiences and bad. I feel like I’ve lived a whole different life from the start of the year to the end.
For the first part of the year, I had the Terminator and the group of friends that came along with him. Since he and I parted in the summer, that whole life disappeared, along with the friends I thought I was growing close to. And so is life.
For the last few months of the year, I have had numerous theater auditions. One of them I screwed up massively and wanted to punch myself in the face for that. The others, I received amazingly positive and encouraging reactions from the panels of auditors, but still managed to not get booked. And so is life, again. I’ll be covering more of this in a separate blog.
However, the good parts occurred near the end of the year when I finally made some close girlfriends. This was something I’d been wanting all year long, and knowing me, I’m a very impatient person. I always want it now, now, NOW! I’ve had a few exciting adventures with my girlies and a few not so pleasant ones. Let’s just say I’m really not a fan of clubs where random horny guys grab, pull, and push you everywhere you REALLY don’t want to go. If you don’t know my name, you can’t touch me. Nuff said.
Actually, not nuff said. So I did a stupid thing and went on a date with a guy I met in Santa Monica at a bar who couldn’t control his hands. Because I’m an idiot and always give people the benefit of the doubt, I think to myself, well a date won’t hurt. I was also being an idiot thinking I can control any situation I put myself into. WRONG! Of course I’d been warned about these situations before, but I’m 25. I think I’m invincible, not gonna lie. So this date turns into me being far too drunk, half passed out on the couch, then being lifted onto someone’s (oh yeah, Mr. Santa Monica’s) bed. The nasty occurs with me in that drunken stupor thinking it was a dream, and BAM! after it was over, my instincts kick in. You’re a little late, Instincts, way to be. I get the hell out of there, drunkenly stumbling down the stairs, cutting up the back of my heel on the way down, driving when I REALLY shouldn’t have been, and crying hysterically on the phone to my best friend Anthony. I made it safely home. But in the most stupid and dangerous way. So, needless to say, that’s not gonna happen again…but I’ve been wrong before.
Just gotta throw this in here: people make me sick. It’s called evolution! Let’s evolve into people bettering humanity, not fucking it over. And……nobody listens. Oh well, worth a shot.
My defense system results in me getting very angry. After my one night experience, days passed with me fuming. All I wanted to do was punch things. Guys blatantly staring at me at work, PUNCH! Older men making flirtatious jokes at me, PUNCH! My manager making a sexual comment, PUNCH! My buried memories of other guys making me feel threatened, AIR PUNCH PUNCH! And so is life…
But it shouldn’t be. And yet, nothing will ever change.
IN OTHER NEWS:
I made peace with my infamous ex, Chris Cameron, who was basically my first everything…well, almost.
Also met the producer and manager for Funny Man, Mr. Georgia (names have been removed for privacy reasons). Gonna be flying home this weekend on their private jet to see my parents. Some of you probably think I’m stupid for doing this, but it’s a major whim! And this blog is called Whimming Lessons after all. I’ll cover more on this later after this weekend. We’ll see if I was stupid or not.
6 thoughts on “One Year Down, More to Go…”
I love you and your perfectly timed (by the Big Guy, of course) presence in my life. And I know how it is wishing, wanting and hoping for a good group of girl friends NOW. You are included when I say I finally feel like I have found one too. 🙂 Thanks for being so great.
🙂 I am so lucky to have you girls be slaves at BJ’s with me. Lol. It’s amazing how some good things can come out of that place.
Christanna – that jerk should be neutered…that pretty much sounds like rape to me…the one thing I will teach my boys is that you never touch a woman when she is not fully there..hugs to you and if he ever shows his face in Chicago I have a couple uncles that can deal with him!
Thanks, Paula, I appreciate that. With your uncles and mine combined in Chicago, it’d be a death wish, ya know? But I’m really okay. Letting it out and writing about it is my coping style.
Oh and speaking of writing about this on a blog, that was the point. I want some people who’ve been in similar situations to read this and understand to not bury, or think it’s normal or okay for this to happen. It’s never and not okay! …Argh.
LOL – I understand that – sometimes it is hard to control my mothering instinct – and of course it always helps to have big bad mafioso family members still around! Keep writing, it is always insightful to read!